I self-referred to Kinergy when I was seeking support for historical sexual abuse. I had 24 weekly one-to-one sessions with a counsellor, which were a crucial step in my recovery journey.

Having had some difficult experiences with therapy in the past, it was important for me to feel safe, seen, and supported in a therapeutic setting so I could carefully work through the trauma and my story. I was listened to, respected, and given the space and trust to navigate the challenges I wanted to address at my own pace. Feeling empowered in this way was significant in helping me change my life and shape my future.

Outside of the therapy room, Kinergy also consistently demonstrated professionalism in its communication and operations. Contacting a service for support with sexual abuse can be daunting and confusing, but I was always kept up-to-date by Kinergy, treated with dignity, and guided through straightforward processes.

I am now very happy to represent Kinergy as an ambassador. This role allows me to promote their services and serve as an example of how trauma can be overcome.

Listen to yourself and trust your instincts. It is important to feel in control of our lives and to recognise the agency we have over our journeys. If something doesn’t feel right or aligned with that, trust yourself to make a decision that supports you and your future.

You may try many different approaches during recovery – various therapies, new habits or routines – and sometimes that may mean discovering what doesn’t work for you. That's OK though, as taking action means progress is always happening, even when you may not notice it, and you'll be learning about yourself all the time.

And do try new hobbies, interests, ways of expressing yourself, aside from just formal therapeutic options. Trust yourself when you are following your nose with this, even if it may seem unusual and take you in unexpected directions (I am currently taking ballet lessons for the first time at 35!).

The journey can be extremely challenging at times, but with the support of others – as and when you need it – you can and will find your way and change your life.

Ashley runs Just Cos! Poetry – an evening of open mic poetry and spoken word at Smoke & Mirrors, BS1. This event runs every first Tuesday of the month and welcomes anyone to perform their work in front of a supportive and encouraging audience – from new writers to established wordsmiths. This is a warm community and a range of voices, themes and styles are always heard. Not a writer? Go along and be inspired!

More details can be found at https://hdfst.uk/just-cos--poetry-open-mic.
Contact ashley@ashleydunn.co.uk or find @justcospoetry on Instagram.